Brain studies have proven that childhood experiences make a lasting imprint on the subconscious mind. That includes things that we witness or hear about, people and circumstances that we encounter, and everything we are told by others. All of that becomes so deeply ingrained that even when we aren’t aware of it, those deep impressions have a strong influence over us for the rest of our lives.
That can be good news or bad news. There are valuable learning experiences that serve us well, but then there are also influences that keep us stuck and unable to move forward through life. It all depends…
We all have negative thoughts and moments of doubting ourselves, and we may sometimes face situations that make us feel afraid. That’s to be expected on occasion.
The problem occurs when we are being subconsciously driven by these unwanted thoughts and emotions. They are in control, and we don’t even realize it.
How do you take back your life? You have to learn to let go of what’s holding you back.
If you’re ever going to move forward in your life, you first have to figure out exactly what kinds of early life experiences are still having an adverse affect on you as an adult. That’s not as simple as it sounds, so let’s start with a few basic examples.
What kid has never felt afraid?! Growing up is pretty scary. What if you fail that test? What if the other kids laugh at something you say or the clothes you’re wearing? What if nobody asks you to the big school dance? What if you ask that cute girl and she says no?
Unfortunately, some of the things we feared as children actually happened. There were times that kids did make fun of you, or you tried your best but still failed an exam, or you got your feelings hurt and your heart broken.
Whether it was failing at something or feeling humiliated, your fears were validated. Worse, your brain then filed that away as “proof” that you should be afraid. As an adult you wear that fear like a bullet-proof vest, and it prevents you from ever taking any risk or even from stepping slightly outside of your comfort zone.
Quite often, procrastination works just fine for kids. You can mow the yard, or you can go play ball with your friends. For a child that choice is a no-brainer.
Of course the pay-off is only short-lived, and you’ll probably get yelled at, but it’s worth it. You know the consequences, but in a child’s mind it’s not too hard to shove them aside in favor of living for the moment.
Doing that often enough makes it easier and easier to dismiss the consequences of your own actions. You develop a habit that, over time, becomes addictive.
The problem with bringing that into adulthood is that you’ve got a lot more on the line. Procrastination can have devastating effects on just about every aspect of your life, from your relationships to your career to your finances.
Even if you had the best parents in the world, chances are you got a little damaged growing up. Their intent was to protect and to teach you, but from your standpoint it felt more like being constantly examined, judged, and criticized.
Stop that. Don’t touch that! How many times do I have to tell you? Shame on you. What will people think?! I told you so. You should have known better. What were you thinking?!
This isn’t about blaming your parents. It’s about understanding what you internalized as a child that no longer serves you. As an adult, no one is in charge of you but you. Only you have the right to criticize you.
The problem is that those echos from the past are still loud and clear in your head. You don’t realize where all those put-downs are coming from, and you don’t think to question it because your brain has accepted them as fact. When such a negative thought arises, you believe it is true.
Those are just three examples of childhood experiences that can be damaging. One other, and perhaps most important, is living a passionless life.
The fortunate few discover a skill or talent in childhood and turn it into a fulfilling and successful career. More often though, we either never have an opportunity to explore any paths that bring us joy, or we lose sight of them under the day-to-day pressures of making a living. Instead of seeking out what would fulfill us on a deeper level, we end up settling for whatever comes. We live by default, because we have given up.
You Can’t Fix It If You Don’t Know What’s Broken
If any of the above strikes a chord in you, then you may think you’ve got it all figured out. Maybe, but it’s easy to be deceived. Remember that we’re talking about what’s going on in your subconscious mind, so the answers aren’t always straightforward.
You may not know yourself quite as well as you think. You might even reach a conclusion when in fact, the truth is pretty much the opposite!
It is this exact dilemma that inspired the folks at Mind Movies to design a 30-second quiz that is powerfully accurate, and 100% FREE. If you’re familiar with the Make A Vision Board site, you know we hold the Mind Movies team in very high regard because everything they do is first rate. Their goal is to transform lives, and they do that by providing quality information that is simple to understand and genuinely useful.
This opportunity is no exception. The quiz consists of a series of carefully arranged questions that can predict the number one experience from your childhood that is most damaging to your career, your finances, and your life.
The Mind Movies team calls this your “Negative Childhood Imprint.” Here’s how it works:
After you take the quiz, Mind Movies will provide you with a personalized video report that details your results. In addition, you’ll receive specific action steps you can do to start erasing your Negative Childhood Imprint from your mind.
This is completely free of charge, so what do you have to lose? More importantly, what might you gain?!